This has been on my mind all week. I used to agree wholeheartedly with it, but now I’m not so sure I do. I mean I agree but to a degree. The part that I question is the ‘’accept the things I cannot change’’. At first glance it makes perfect sense, when taking a second look it still makes sense. Why huff and puff about something you can’t do anything about, right? It continues making sense until something happens that you want to change. You want to change it so badly it drives you to desperation knowing you can’t. Or can you?
How To Decide What Cannot Change
How are we to decide that something indeed can’t be changed? I mean we live in a world governed by rules, which are there for good measure, but even those have changed. Not only that they are still changing and probably will continue to do so till the end of time. If it can’t be changed we will look for a loophole, which often is found. So if the rules that are so ‘’unchangeable’’ can change, why can’t certain situations? When are we supposed to decide that we have to accept what it is for what it is because it can’t be changed?
Logically you would say after you have exhausted all your other options. Which makes sense, but what if there weren’t any to begin with? What do you do then? Simple acceptance because it is what it is and cannot be changed? Or do you fight? If you do what are you fighting for? The change, yes but what fight are you supposed to fight? I can’t help but wonder what do you do when you want change but there are no options? That sounds dramatic especially since we have so many options all the time, it’s basically become a habit to explore and exhaust all options. However, leave it to me to find the one time that you don’t.
Well, that I don’t. I just can’t help but wonder when do you know that it is time to accept. When do you stop the habit of looking for options. Stopping too soon would mean risking not having traveled a path that leads to your preferred destination. So would not trying at all. On the other hand continuing a search with a million death ends is absolutely heartbreaking. What’s a girl to do? Especially since there is also the fact that the universe redirects us to a better path without telling us. If you believe in that sort of thing.. which I do.
I can’t help but wonder could it be that I have yet to come across the wisdom to know the difference?