Those days when you wake up with one thing on your mind, it is almost as if overnight you have acquired an obsession. No matter what you do, your mind keeps wandering back to that one thought. A production of your own mind, not even a real thing at least not that you are aware of. It is a thought about an event, a conversation or about something you’ve seen. Thinking it should’ve been, could’ve been, would’ve been if.. Or worse a thought involving a person. Better yet, what they are thinking. Symptoms of an occupied mind.
Let’s stay on the worse one, wondering what the other person is thinking. The only way to figure it out is to ask, to start that very daunting conversation. The catch however is, when you are in a situation described above the thought that you’re obsessing about could be something drawn up by your own mind, not something real in reality.
Perhaps distracting the mind with some productive distractions could be a good way to go? For what it is worth you can try them out here.
What are we to do to get the answer? The feeling here is split. A part of me is wondering why on earth is it important?* What is it going to change? More importantly will knowing change anything for the better? I know for sure that the one thing that will improve is my occupied mind. It will return to a state of calm non-obsessed and able to properly focus. On the other hand my occupied mind will eventually calm down. So is patience the way to combat this? I have and always will be an advocate of just asking and get clarity, but what if the thought that you are stuck on is just a tiny bit of healthy paranoia. Especially if it’s about something that you’re thinking that they’re thinking, without any facts to back your thoughts up.
Does the rule; ”Do not go looking for what you don’t want to find” apply?
*Editor’s note: not about what they are thinking of you, that is a completely different topic, which I wonder about here.