Everyone that makes motivational speeches say that you are not a victim. But you are, you very much are. A victim of yourself. A victim of the poor choices that you consciously made. A victim of the times that your head and heart said ‘’NO!’’ but your mouth went ‘’YES!’’. A victim of all the times you didn’t listen to yourself. Letting yourself be unhappy. But guess what? You don’t have to stay a victim you can become a hero! You have a choice to either continue to make yourself a victim or to become your own hero.
Believe me becoming your own hero is fairly simple, it’s just not easy. Most of us already know how to do it. For those who don’t know how to do it, I’m going to break it down. Obviously there are many more steps you can undertake but, to me, these will really kick start your new life as your own hero.
First of all when you’re thinking and feeling ‘’NO!’’, please instruct your mouth to follow along. Remember it is your brain that controls your mouth. So if you’re thinking it, you have to pass it down and say it. Don’t let outside pressures change the answer because you feel you have to comply. Compromising is very different from going against yourself. When you say ‘’YES!’’ but mean ‘’NO!’’ the only thing you are compromising is your happiness. A real compromise means meeting somewhere in the middle, remember that.
Second, when you know a decision is going to damage you in the long run, then make a different decision. The thing about decisions is that you have options. If one pushes you off the correct path, take the other option even if it is the harder path. It’ll be worth it, no doubt. If all options don’t suit you, you go out and create an extra option. What you cannot do is settle for your current options. There is no such thing as no more options, because as long as you’re alive you have decisions to make.
Last but not least become conscious. Conscious of the things you say, do and see. Binge watching Netflix is not going to help your mindset grow. It’s not going to add to the goal you want to achieve. Having mindless conversations filled with negativity is not going to help either. All those are not going to help push you further. You have to pick up on these little things that are hurting you in order to filter them out. The only way to do this is to become alert. To become consciously aware of the things that you engage and surround yourself with.
So yes, currently you’re a victim but for the love of yourself you don’t have to stay one. The choice, the decision is yours. Everyone has a hero in them. All you have to do is allow the hero to come out and raise hell to create your real life heaven. It’s right there. All you have to do is make one simple decision. I’m leaving you with the following question:
‘’Am I going to continue being a victim or am I going to use what I read and be my own hero from now on?’’
The person that knows can start to make changes. Be your own hero.