Everyone that makes motivational speeches says that you are not a victim. But you are, you very much are. A victim of yourself. A victim of the poor choices that you consciously made. A victim of the times that your head and heart said ‘’NO!’’ but your mouth went ‘’YES!’’. A victim of all the times you didn’t listen to yourself. Letting yourself be unhappy. But guess what? You don’t have to stay a victim you can become a hero! You have a choice to either continue to make yourself a victim or to become your own hero.
Believe me becoming your own hero is fairly simple, it’s just not easy. Most of us already know how to be a hero. For those who don’t know how to do it, I’m going to break it down. Obviously there are many more steps you can undertake but, to me, these will really kick start your new life as your own hero. Above that these steps are the ones a lot of people struggle with and thus don’t even try to undertake. Which is such a shame as these steps are so impactful they have the power to change your life in ways in unexpected manners.
3 Steps To Undertake To Be Your Own Hero
1. Start saying ”NO.”
First of all when you’re thinking and feeling ‘’NO!’’, please instruct your mouth to follow along. And that’s where you say; ”That’s easier said than done!!”. I know, I know is my response let me explain a little more.
Remember it is your brain that controls your mouth. So if you’re thinking it, you have to pass it down and say it. The best way to do that is to change the way you are answering. No, not the simple change from always saying yes to suddenly saying no but the process of getting to yes or no. In order to be your own hero you need to make a plan as all hero’s do. The plan to confidently say no is to take your time with your answer.
We have gotten so accustomed to having lightning fast conversations that we no longer take our time to take in the information given and to then answer. Thus start being your own hero and slowing down your conversations so you can take your time to come up with your answer. The one that you actually want to give.
Don’t let outside pressures change the answer because you feel you have to comply. Compromising is very different from going against yourself. When you say ‘’YES!’’ but mean ‘’NO!’’ the only thing you are compromising is your happiness. A real compromise means meeting somewhere in the middle, remember that so you can steadily continue to use your voice to be your hero.
2. Don’t settle just for the sake of it.
Second, when you know a decision is going to damage you in the long run, then make a different decision. The thing about decisions is that you have options. If one pushes you off the correct path, take the other option even if it is the harder path. It’ll be worth it, no doubt. If all options don’t suit you, you go out and create an extra option. What you cannot do is settle for your current options. There is no such thing as no more options, because as long as you’re alive you have decisions to make and thus options to choose from.
While you’re on the path of becoming your own hero, be sure to not over do it in this area.
The catch is that you don’t always see those options which is perfectly normal. It happens even to the ones that are living a life they love. However when you looking at the possibilities in front of you there’s always one that needs to be added in order to make the options, in my opinion, complete. Let’s call it the Hero Option.
The hero option consists of one magic word. The magic word is; ”creation”. I always like to work with questions as questions give answer. You are See right now living an example of it already. You wanted to know how to be your own, which was the question and this post is the answer. The question you need to start asking is:
Out of the options I have, can I create an other option? Can I create my Hero Option?
See the rule to follow is
”That what not is can be.”
or the one that is better suitable in this scenario:
”That what not exist, can start”
See you don’t need to simply accept what is, you have to have faith in your ability to create what you want when the options given mean settling for everything you don’t want or compromising in way that is actually you being convinced to do what really don’t want. Stop settling! It can honestly ruin your life!
3. Become conscious of your actions
Last but not least become conscious. Conscious of the things you say, do and see. Binge watching Netflix is not going to help your mindset grow. It’s not going to add to the goal you want to achieve. Having mindless conversations filled with negativity is not going to help either. All those are not going to help push you further. You have to pick up on these little things that are hurting you in order to filter them out. The only way to do this is to become alert. To become consciously aware of the things that you engage and surround yourself with.
You have to start being conscious of the way you spend your time. You have to develop the time settings of your inner hero. A big part of being your own hero lies in the things that you unconsciously commit yourself too. Not unconsciously in the sense that you don’t notice at all but in the sense that you say yes when you shouldn’t, try to steal time you actually didn’t have and or not aware of this behavior. It is very noble towards other people but what about you? You need saving too. So start saving saving yourself by becoming your own hero.
So yes, currently you’re a victim but for the love of yourself you don’t have to stay one. The choice, the decision is yours. Everyone has a hero in them. All you have to do is allow the hero to come out and raise hell to create your real life heaven. It’s right there. All you have to do is make one simple decision. I’m leaving you with the following question:
‘’Am I going to continue being a victim or am I going to use what I read and be my own hero from now on?’’
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