How am I supposed to cut an entire social concept out of my life when having to consider the nice factor? The question I’ve been wondering about all week. The social concept I’m talking about is small talk. The obligated sharing of tedious information when meeting someone new. How did this become a rule?
I do wonder. Anyway rule or not I want it out of my life. That decision has been made and I’m not changing it. I’m the writer of my story thus I decide how I want to live my life. Now I have to figure out how I’m effectively getting it out of my life.
For you to understand the above decision should read up on the previous two wonderings:
This week I met new people again. However the encounter wasn’t as others. The small talk lasted for about 30 seconds. Just two questions that fall under the category small talk and afterwards the entire conversation was about things that actually matter. The transition wasn’t unpleasant at all, making the nice factor a non issue, which made me wonder whether having small talk is bound to the people I’m talking to.
Logically I would say yes, but thinking about it twice makes me decide otherwise. It couldn’t possibly be that everyone I’ve met thrives on small talk. It makes perfect sense to gather up some general info at the start but to continue on that note does not. Why can’t the transition be as effortless with everyone? When that becomes the case I can easily cut small talk out of my life, I think.
I can’t help but wonder what is it that makes the transition from small talk to real talk pleasant?
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