Here we are again. At the last night of another year, the year of 25 to be exact. For once I don’t feel like this year flew by. I went by kinda slow. At the start of it I said I wanted to make the self fulfilling prophecy of the year of 25 being one of the best years of your life come true. Time to evaluate and see if I made that actually true. Also, let’s get into the life lessons I’ve learned because there has been one or two that have been major and when I say major I mean major.
So right at the start of my birthday of the year of 25 some plans got cancelled, but that is okay as it opened the way to something way more exciting. I’ll get into that later. Anyway it wasn’t a rocking start of the year, but redemption came sooner than I expected and the opportunity to do something that I have been wanting to do since I was 15, yep that’s *cough cough* 10 years😲, presented itself in a manner of now or never. I chose now, the year of 25 because I mean one must do something iconic during the year of 25, right?
Of course I had already done something iconic but one more can’t hurt. If you don’t know what I am talking about, it is going to Paris by myself fi-nah-ly! I know I spilled some extra details about my Paris trip in the four year anniversary post for My Story Of I but there is one that I saved for today. I know I just can’t stop talking about it, please forgive me my heart is just too happy that it happened. In the end of summer celebration post I wrote something that means more to me than you wonders may realize. I wrote; ‘’No matter what happens, I’ll always have Paris’’. I was actually referring to the opportunity that presented itself that I still have to keep hush on but is coming pronto, I promise.
Now I know it might seem like I didn’t do something iconic since it has not been presented to you wonders just yet, but that is not true. There are some things to be arranged that I have done all I could have possibly done or knew that I should do for it to be arranged and is now in the hands of someone else. Just to give you a bit of back story. However that was not the point though. The point is that I did it, finally! And no matter what happens, I’ll always have Paris. Casablanca anyone? Being able to say that and have it actually mean something of such weight that it is to me, is iconic if you ask me. A major dream completed in the year of 25.
Life lessons Learned in the year of 25
Doing, to me, iconic things has to come with life lessons at least so I thought. I have of course learned a couple of life lessons but mostly something has been happening that I can’t quite put my finger on it. It’s that strange to be honest. I’m going to start with the life lessons that I learned of which there are two. The first one having to do with Will Smith.
Year of 25 Life Lesson #1
A couple of years back I watched a video of Will Smith telling the story of how he decided to go skydiving. If you have been a long time reader you know I am irrationally rationally afraid of heights, so spoiler alert no I did not go skydiving. The point he was trying to get across was that the point of maximum danger, which was when the doors of the airplane opened and he stood on the ledge of the plane, is the point of minimum fear. During the year of 25 I discovered that he might actually be right in a grander form than I had originally thought.
I have always known that outside of your comfort zone is where the magic happens and being afraid is fear in the alive version of the grim reaper however what Will Smith is talking about is bigger and feels different. During the year of 25 I made a dream come true that I have wanted since I was a little girl and no I don’t mean Paris. But every time I thought about pursuing it, the voice of maybe brought its cousins the voice of if, the voice of but, the voice of however and the voice of anxiety to talk ‘’sense’’ into me and steer me in another direction. No matter the direction I went in however, the dream was always there, perhaps buried under dust but still there.
Deciding to pursue it in the name of making the year of 25 really one of the best years of my life caused me to physically tremble, however when I started working on it I was not afraid, am not afraid and feel that for the first time in a long time know exactly what I am doing even when I am well aware that I am walking into a terrain I have absolutely no experience in. Isn’t that the weirdest thing ever? I am 100% in the unknown, feeling like I know exactly what I am doing. So that obviously made me think back to the words of Will Smith.
The point of maximum danger is the point of minimum fear. It’s bliss. All the best things in life are on the other side of maximum fear.Will Smith
Starting My Story Of I was also one of those moments, but not as big as this. So the life lesson learned here is that fear has levels and what you might feel is your point of maximum fear might actually not be, it might be way further. I have some more wondering to do about this, so I’ll get back to you on this in a wonderlogue.
Year of 25 Life Lesson #2
This year I learned that it’s okay to be completely convinced of something, even to the point of madness because it can create magic. You shouldn’t wait to pursue that. It’s okay to stand by yourself. Do realize that by standing by yourself I don’t mean alone, I mean stand by your madness of believing in something. Of course there is a chance that you might be proven wrong, and of course there are lots of ifs and buts to be placed with this life lesson but I mean the most innocent general interpretation possible.
The comfort in trusting your ‘’madness’’ knows no bounds. Be open to talking to people about their point of view, but don’t change your beliefs if they don’t give you a reason that you absolutely agree with.
Life Lesson #3 The weird one
I wasn’t sure whether I would include this as a life lesson because I am still very much figuring this one out. I just find it so weird and strange that I thought what if I share it and get some feedback from you wonders. This life lesson is about the dreams we had as kids. Most people don’t really remember them, I however do remember mine and still have physical, embarrassing, proof of them.
In this process of truly getting to know myself and going after the things I wanted and want, you know truly writing my My Story Of I I have discovered that all the things I wanted as a girl I managed to combine into 1. The thing I find so strange is that we are supposed to grow up and have different dreams. I very much thought I had however the more I peeled back the layers I built to function in society the more I seemed to have ended up at a seven year old girl who wanted three things:
- Figure out how time works and to use it well.
- Live a life the way I wanted to, not the way was designed as best.
- Understand the world.
Those are three out of four pillars of My Story Of I.com. Never realized this in 2016, when I started this. I was in a completely different state of mind than I am now. The process of writing My Story Of I is without a doubt one of the best decisions I have ever made. So I guess the life lesson here is
If you give yourself a chance, you will create exactly what it is you need.DCPR.
This year of 25 life lesson is still a work in progress. I’ll keep you wonders updated in the wonderlogues, because it is time to look towards the future as the hours of the last night of the year of 25 are slowly starting to tick away rapidly. The year of 26 is going to be one of facing maximum fear, just like in 2016 when starting My Story Of I. 2020 has been interesting so far, lots of beginning again and with my birthday only hours away it is no different. For the first time I am perhaps not quite ready to say goodbye to the year of 25, but I am excited for the adventures, when safely possible, of the year of 26. I guess that because I am not quite ready to say goodbye to 25 just yet, it means I succeeded in creating an amazing year that I will definitely remember.
I want to say thank you for reading and being a part of the journey, it means more than you know or I could ever accurately explain. I sincerely hope that all that is shared is helpful to all of you in one way or another. I hope you’ll join me for the year of 26? All that rests me to say is;
Happy Birthday To Me🖤!